Poetry Foundation: for all things poetic that aren’t Mark Nepo. The app allows you to find a random poem based on an emotion.

Court Case:

Virgin Journey:

CCPA Code of Ethics:

Munchausen By Proxy with Psychiatric Features:

New Yorker: How People Learn to Become Resilient:

Data on Catharsis:

The Science of Affection:

The Real Victims of Victimhood:

Why Being Good Gives People License to Misbehave:

Critique of Gestalt:

Verbal Overshadowing in Face Identification:

Hero Syndrome:

Counsellor Using Punks DIY Ethic to Promote Mental Health

On Being Too Much:


Symptoms of Leaving a Cult:

Court Case:

Jesus Camp 10 Years Later:

Junot Diaz on Race, Art, Success, Likability:

Allan Watts on Meaning:

Ursula Le Guin on Power, Oppression, Storytelling:

Love in Infant Monkeys: The Science on Affection:

Kierkegaard on Conformity:


Videos (yes, I know I spend too much time on YouTube):

Zizek: Wisdom is Disgusting

Traumatic Narcissism:

Analysis of HBO’s “In Treatment”:

Irvin Yalom on “In Treatment”:

UBC: “He Who Speaks Does Not Know”: Getting Beyond Language

Wittgenstein film clips on language:

Ethan Watters on mental illness:

Bruce Alexander on addiction:

Sorry, We Can’t Ban Everything That Offends You:

Jonathan Haidt: Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion:

Jonathan Haidt: Contentious Culture:

Carl Rogers therapy:

Beautiful Sentence (healing through poetry in prison):

Protesting Princeton’s Racist Legacy

All videos by Zizek, Rogers and Yalom



I feel like:

Epigenetics and Generational Trauma:

Trauma Informed Schools

The Psychology Behind Morality:

The Problem with the Solution:

The Perils of Power:

How Shyness and Introversion Can Be A Strength:


Books I have read and recommend:

Trapped In the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Search for Self

The Globalization of Addiction: A study in the poverty of the spirit by Bruce Alexander

Love’s Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom

Crazy Like Us: The globalization of the American psyche by Ethan Watters

Identity and the Life Cycle by Erik Erikson

Childhood and Society by Erik Erikson

Identity Youth and Crisis by Erik Erikson

The Spiritual Life of Children by Robert Coles

The Moral Life of Children by Robert Coles

Ethics for Professionals and Counselors: A proactive approach by Anderson and Handelsman

Civilization and its Discontents by Freud

Beyond Good and Evil by Nietzsche

Many Roads, One Journey by Charlotte Kasl

Books I haven’t read but would like to or would recommend for those in the counselling profession:

Everything by: Jung, Nietzsche, Foucault, Yalom, Freud, Wittgenstein, Virginia Satir, Carl Rogers

Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation by Daniel Shaw

The Righteous Mind: Why good people are divided by politics and religion by Jonathan Haidt

Justice: What’s the right thing to do by Michael Sandel

The Virgin’s Promise by Kim Hudson

Let me know yours!


and, of course, The Haven itself:

PS some links related to Haven content conveniently disappear once I post them. Their website obviously isn’t one of them, but others do disappear. I do not catch these always.

Other Haven Blogs:

Haven Leadership Summit actually had some amazing things going on. Definitely necessary! New ideas, acknowledgment of power, acknowledgment of the need for Haven to change. (Apart from the irony that I was being scapegoated and blocked at the time.) The pre-summit webinar is not very useful, the summit videos have some great stuff. Found here: